LUB PAJ NTSHUA NPLAIM DAWB

Lub Paj Ntshua Nplaim Dawb - Nyob Rau Lub Caij Christmas Rau Xyoo Kawg


Tus sau yog Ted Vang

Muaj ib hnub…uas yog hnub ua ntej Christmas Day, muaj ib tug txiv neej tos… txog hnub uas yuav luag kawg nws mam li mus yuav khoom plig rau hnub Christmas rau nws cov neeg uas txheeb ze. Thaum nws mus txog tom lub khw yuav khoom nws pom tau tias neeg mas coob li coob xwb. Nws tig mus rau sab twg los yeej tsis tau kev mus li. Nws chim siab heev thiab xav tias ua cas cov neeg no yuav tos kom txog hnub kawg mam li mus yuav khoom xwb los ua cas. Nws hais rau nws tus kheej tias “kuv ces yeej tsis muaj hnub kuv yuav txeem tau mus yuav cov khoom plig rau hnub Christmas hlo li os”.


Nws xav rau nws tus kheej hais tias txawm nws yuav qe nws lub qhov muag thiab pw ntawm lub khw no txog tag kis los ntshe neeg yeej yuav tsis ploj tag li. Chim nws siab heev nws thiaj li txeem tau nkag mus rau tom ib kem uas lawv muag cov khoom ua si rau cov menyuam yaus. Thaum nws mus txog ntawm kem muag khoom ua si rau cov menyuam yaus ntawd, nws pom ib tug menyuam tub muaj hnub nyoog li 7 xyoo tuav rawv ib tug menyuam yaas ua yog cov baby doll uas cov menyuam ntxhais nyiam heev. Nws nyob deb tsawv ntsia mus pom tus menyuam tub ntawv tuav rawv tus baby doll, thiab ua lub ntsej muag quaj dhi, tu siab thiab ntshaus heev…pom tus menyuam tub ntawv plhws tus baby doll ntawv cov plob hau uas ci ci thiab zoo zoo nkauj mus los, thiab khawm tus baby doll ntawv ze ze hauv nws xub ntiag ruaj ruaj tsis tso. Tus menyuam tub ntawv lub ntsej muag tu tu siab thiab mluas heev li. Ces txawm muaj ib poj niam laus li 65 xyoo los nug tus menyuam tub ntawv hais tias “Me tub, ua cas koj yuav khawm tus baby doll ko ruaj ua luaj thiab ua cas zoo li koj tu tu siab heev li na, es koj niam thiab txiv dua twg lawm” Tu menyuam tub thiaj li teb rau tus poj niam laus ntawv hais tias: “Niam tais, twb yog kuv xav yuav tus menyuam yaas uas zoo zoo nkauj no rau kuv niam nqa mus rau kuv tus muam xwb, vim kuv paub hais tias nws nyiam heev li, tab sis thov txim ntau es koj puas paub kuv cov nyiaj no puas txaus them rau tus menyuam baby doll no os” Tus niam tais laus ntawv txawm hais rau tus menyuam tub ntawv hais tias “Me tub, koj cov nyiaj nws tsis txaus them rau tus baby doll no, tab sis koj txhob mus qhov twg thiab nyob tos kuv li 5 feeb tej, tib pliag no kuv mam li rov los”. Tus txiv neej ntawv saib na has tus niam tais laus ntawv txawm ncig ncig ces cia

li ploj lawm tsis pom rov los. Thaum no, nws thiaj li xav paub tias yog vim li cas es tus menyuam tub ntawv thiaj li yuav nyiam tus baby doll ntawv ua luaj li thiab nws saib tus menyuam tub ntawv mas nws ntsej muag ntshaus ntshaus, thiab tuav rawv tus baby doll ntawv tos tus niam tais laus ntawv saib nws puas rov qab los xwb. Tus txiv neej ntawv thiaj li mus nug tus menyuam tub me me ntawv hais tias: “Me tub, koj xav tau tus menyuam baby doll ko mus rau leej twg na lov…uas cas nws yuav ntxim nyiam ua luaj li” Tus menyuam tub thiaj li teb rau tus txiv neej ntawv hais tias: “Twb yog kuv xav tau nws mus rau kuv tus muam, thaum ua ntej Christmas, nws ntseeg tias hnub Christmas no mas Santa Claus yuav tsum nqa tus menyuam baby doll no los rau nws xwb” Tus txiv neej ntawv thiaj hais rau tus menyuam tub hais tias: “Koj tsis txhob txhawj mas lov, vim Santa Claus yeej yuav tsum nqa kom tau tus baby doll no los rau koj tus muam xwb xwb li la ma” Tus menyuam tub ntawv thiaj teb rau tus txiv neej ntawv nrog lub suab uas tu siab heev thiab ntshaus ntsho hais tias: “Tab sis tu siab heev tias tam sim no ntshe Santa Claus yuav tsis muaj peev xwm nqa mus rau nws lawm na. Kuv yuav nqa tus baby doll no mus rau kuv niam pab nqa mus rau nws saum ntuj ceeb tsheej, vim kuv txiv hais rau kuv hais tias kuv tus muam nws twb mus rau saum ntuj ceeb tsheej lawm, es kuv niam los yuav lawv nws qab mus sai sai no thiab. Kuv ntseeg hais tias tej zaum kuv niam thiaj li yuav nqa tau nrog nws mus rau kuv tus muam saum ntuj ceeb tsheej no na” Thaum lub sij hawm no, tus txiv neej ntawv lub plawv yuav luag nres, thiab ua rau nws lub ntuj thiab teb kiv pes lees thiab tsis paub xyov yuav teb li cas rau tus menyuam tub ntawv li. Thiab, ua ntej thaum uas nws teb tus menyuam tub ntawv, uas nws twb tsis paub tias xyov yuav hais li cas li, tub menyuam tub txawm tig rov los ntsia nws thiab hais tias: “Tag kis no, kuv hais rau kuv txiv hais tias thov kom kuv txiv hais rau kuv niam kom niam tsis txhob rawm maj mus es tos kuv tuaj tom khw no rov mus txog tso es yog niam yuav mus no los mam cia niam mus no”

Ces tus menyuam tub ntawv txawm thau tau nws ib daim duab zoo nkauj heev uas thaij thaum nws luag ntxhi thiab zoo zoo siab heev nrog rau nws txoj kev ntxim hlub heev hauv nws lub hnab tshos los thiab hais tias: “Kuv xav kom kuv niam nqa daim duab no nrog nws mus, es kuv niam thiaj li yuav nco tau kuv thiab tsis hnov qab txog kuv vim kuv hlub kuv niam thiab nco nws heev li na, kuv yeej tsis xav kom kuv niam ncaim mus li, tab sis kuv txiv hais rau kuv hais tias kuv niam yuav tsum tau ncaim wb mus nrog kuv tu muam nyob saum ntuj ceeb tsheej no” Ces tus menyuam tub ntawv txawm tig rov qab mus saib tus menyuam baby doll uas nws tuav rawv yam li uas nws tshua heev li. Thaum no ces tus txiv neej ntawv yeej tsis nco xyov yog nws nyob rau lub ntuj twg li lawm. Tom qab uas nws hnov tus menyuam tub ntawv cov lus tag, nws xav rau nws tus kheej tias yog vim li case s huab tais ntuj thiaj li yuav rau txim rau tus menyuam tub no npaum li no. Nws thiaj li thau hlo nws lub hnab nyiaj tawm los thiab rub hlo tau ob peb daim nyiaj hauv nws lub hnab nyiaj los…thiab hais rau tus menyuam tub ntawv hais tias: “Oh…muab koj lub hnab nyiaj los wb rov qab saib zoo zoo dua ib zaug ntxiv saib tej zaum koj yeej muaj nyiaj txaus yuav tus baby doll no lawm kuj tsis paub…cia kuv nrog koj suav koj cov nyiaj saib yom”…. Lub sij hawm no, tus txiv neej ntawv thiaj li nyiag muab nws cov nyiaj ntsaws rau hauv tus menyuam tub ntawv lub hnab nyiaj. Tus menyuam tub ntawv thiaj teb hais tias: “Ua li ntawv, cia wb rov muab kuv cov nyiaj suav dua ib zaug ntxiv saib nws puas txaus yom” Tus menyuam tub txawm rov qheb dua nws lub hnab nyiaj me me thiab suav cov nyiaj dua ib zaug ntxiv. Tus menyuam tub thiaj tig los hais rau tus txiv neej ntawv hais tias: “Tus txiv ntxawm, kuv twb tsis yog muaj nyiaj txaus them rau tus baby doll no xwb, kuv tseem muaj nyiaj seem txaus yuav ib lub paj ntshua nplaim dawb rau kuv niam thiab ho...thiab tsis tag li ntawv xwb, nag hmo ua ntej thaum kuv pw na…kuv tau thov rau huab tais ntuj hais tias kom nws pab kom tau ib qhov nyiaj txaus rau kuv yuav tus menyuam yaas baby doll no rau kuv tus muam…tab sis kuv txaj txaj muag thov ntau tshaj ntawv…tiag tiag mas hauv kuv lub siab kuv xav thov kom huab tais ntuj pab kom tau kuv yuav tus menyuam baby doll thiab ib lub paj ntshua nplaim rau kuv niam vim kuv paub tias kuv niam nyiam lub paj ntshua nplaim dawb heev li”

Tus menyuam tub ntawv rov qab hais dua hais tias: “Ua tsaug os Huab Tais Ntuj…ua tsaug uas koj tseem muaj lub siab dawb thiab siab zoo thiab pab kuv zaum no” Tom qab ntawv li ob peb feeb ces tus txiv neej ntawv txawm pom tus niam tais laus uas los nrog tus menyuam tub ntawv tham ua ntej rov qab los…tab sis tus menyuam tub ntawv zoo zoo siab ces nqa hlo nws lub hnab nyiaj me me thiab tus menyuam yas baby doll ntawv dhia dhia mus them lawm. Tus txiv neej ntawv tsis muaj peev xwm yuav tshem tau tus menyuam tub me me ntawv tus duab thiab txoj kev xav tawm ntawm nws lub zeem muag hlo li. Tus txiv neej ntawv yuav tau tag nrho cov khoom uas nws tuaj yuav thiab thaum nws rov los txog tsev, nws yeej tsis muaj peev xwm yuav hnov qab tau tus menyuam tub ntawv li. Tus txiv neej ntawv thiaj li nco tau tias nws pom xov xwm hauv TV ob hnub dhau los lawm tias muaj ib tug tib neeg qaug cawv tsav tsheb mus nrau ib lub tsheb raug ib tug menyuam ntxhais me me tag sim neej, thiab ib tug niam tsev tseem hluas raug mob hnyav heev, thiab sab heev pw tom tom tsev kho mob tsis paub hais tias nws puas yuav zoo taus li. Tsis tag li ntawv xwb, xov xwm tseem hais tias tej zaum tus poj niam hluas uas raug mob hnyav heev ntawv tsev neeg yuav txiav txim siab rho nws txoj yaas ua pa tawm vim cov kws kho mob hais tias nws yeej yuav zoo tsis taus li lawm. Tus txiv neej ntawv xav rau nws tus kheej hais tias…eb…yog li ntawv tsev neeg uas raug txoj kev txom nyem thiab tawm hauv xov xwm TV ntawv puas yuav yog tus menyuam tub ntawv tsev neeg ne… Ob hnub dhau los ces nws thiaj li nyeem pom hauv daim ntawv xov xwm (news paper) hais tias tus niam tsev hluas uas raug mob ntawv tau tag sim neej lawm. Yog li no tus txiv neej ntawv thiaj li cheem tsis tau nws tus kheej thiab hlub tus menyuam tub ntawv heev li nrog rau nws niam thiab tus menyuam ntxhais, nws thiaj li yuav tau ib lub paj ntshua nplaim dawb thiab mus saib tus poj niam hluas ntawv ntawm nws qhov mortuary/funeral. Thaum nws mus txog nws thiaj li nqa lub paj mus tso rau ntawm tus poj niam ntawv ib sab hleb thiab thaum nws ntsia hauv lub hleb ces thiaj pom tus poj niam hluas ntawv tuav rawv ib lub paj ntshua nplaim dawb ntawm nws sab tes, thiab tus baby doll saum nws lub hauv siab. Tus txiv neej ntawv tu siab heev thaum nws pom li ntawv, nws thiaj li tau tawm mus nraum zoov mus quaj twj ywm, thiab thov rau huab tais ntuj dua ib zaug uas yog zaum kawg rau tus poj niam hluas ntawv hnub uas nws nyob rau hauv lub ntiaj no.

Zaum no, nws tau pauv tag tus txiv neej ntawv lub neej, kev xav txog tib neeg hauv lub ntiaj teb no thiab txhua yam uas nws ib txwm xav hauv nws lub neej dhau los, vim txoj kev hlub uas ib tug menyuam tub me me muaj rau nws niam thiab nws tus muam. Yog tsis vim yog ib tug neeg qaug cawv thiab tseem los tsav tsheb saum kev los tsoo nkawv, tej zaum tus menyuam tub ntawv niam thiab nws tus muam tseem yuav muaj txoj sia nyob rau hauv lub ntiaj teb no txog hnub uas kawg nkaus li nkawv txoj hmoo. Txoj sia hauv lub ntiaj teb no nws nyias ntsais npaum li ib daig ntawv los yog ib daim nplooj xwb. Ib feeb xwb ces…nws twb pauv tag ib paus tsav yam uas nws muaj tshwm sim hauv lub ntiaj nteb no lawm. Tsis tag li ntawv, tus neeg uas nws haus cawv qaug thiab tau mus tsoo lwm tus los tau poob tag ib puas tsav yam ntawm nws lub neej thiab.

Happy Holiday

PLEASE READ….I THINK IT IS WORTH SHARING…..

MARRIAGE

When I got home that night as my wife served
dinner, I held her hand and said, I've got something to tell you. She
sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly
I didn't know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I
was thinking. I want a divorce.. I raised the topic calmly.

She didn't seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the
chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn't
talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what
had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a
satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Dew. I didn't love her
anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I
drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house,
our car, and 30% stake of my company.

She glanced at it and then
tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with
me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources
and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Dew so
dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had
expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea
of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer
and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at
the table. I didn't have supper but went straight to sleep and fell
asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Dew.

When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn't want
anything from me, but needed a month's notice before the divorce.
She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a
life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a
month's time and she didn't want to disrupt him with our broken
marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall
how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day.

She requested that everyday for the month's duration I carry her out of our
bedroom to the front door ever morning.. I thought she was going crazy.
Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Dew about my wife's divorce conditions.. . She laughed loudly and
thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to
face the divorce, she said scornfully..

My wife and I hadn't had
any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed.
So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy.
Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His
words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room,
then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She
closed her eyes and said softly; don't tell our son about the divorce.
I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She
went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my
chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I
hadn't looked at this woman carefully for a long time.. I realized she
was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair
was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I
wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I
lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman
who had given ten years of her life to me.

On the fifth and
sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I
didn't tell Dew about this. It became easier to carry her as the month
slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses
but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have
grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was
the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit
me... she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart.
Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came
in at the moment and said, Dad, it's time to carry mum out. To him,
seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part
of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him
tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my
mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the
bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded
my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like
our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her
in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I
held her tightly and said, I hadn't noticed that our life lacked
intimacy.

I drove to office.... jumped out of the car swiftly
without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change
my mind...I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door and I said to her,
Sorry, Dew, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me,
astonished, and then touched my forehead.. Do you have a fever? She
said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I won't
divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn't
value the details of our lives, not because we didn't love each other
any more. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our
wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart.

Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed
the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away.

At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife.
The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote,
I'll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead.

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship.
It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These
create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness
in themselves. So find time to be your spouse's friend and do those
little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy
marriage!